Friend : “Why do you keep push all your packed time and still go to gym ? You have been settling down with your bf right ?”
Me : ……………..
Friend : “In my case, it’s very clear. I want to have a good body so that I can have fun with many guys. That is mandatory thing in Jakarta’s gay life right ? You won’t dare to say that you were still virgin in your 20, eh ?”
Me : …………….
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We are used to this kind of cycle recently. Well at least many of us are. Nothing is wrong with that. In fact that was my cycle of life too! But things become different when you are dreaming to settle down with someone you call as Future husband, Future Partner, Future Other-Half, or whatever word you want to call, while what you do in your daily basis is going to the opposite direction.
That is why, we often meet someone on his 40’s, with 0% body fat, good looking, financially settled, gets luxurious German cars and prestigious apartment, but is still single. I doubt it because he is too picky to find his partner or something. There will be only 2 reasons. First, settling down is not in his list. Or Second, he doesn’t know what to find in a guy. Not because of he already has everything, No. It is because in his younger life, he is too busy to be pleased by many guys. So why do He have to settle down with only one guy if he is able to have fun with three or even dozen of them ?
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In my opinion, It’s ok to get laid. It’s ok to have fun. But what kind of fun and what kind of laid are the issues.
One time in a week, and with another guy the week after, that is ok. Eventhough I will suggest you to have 2 to 3 fuck buddies instead, so you don’t have to get to know every other guy every time you want sex.
Two times in a week, with different guys, thatttt is still tolerable. I know you guys are freaking hot so you need to manage your schedule, this Thursday with that Korean, Next Sunday with that PT Coach, ah not to mention that Banjarmasin guy visitor that stay in hotel next to your apartment. Yeahh yeahh yeahh. Pretttt.
But Three times in a week, and of them is threesome, or even high fun, even I know a guy that even slept with 3 different guys in a single day! thattt I think is already too much.
No harsh. But I seriously think that if you keep doing this in life, too much enjoying this-single-hanky-punky-sleep-with-everyone-even-with-3-different-guys-in-a-day-not-to-mention-all-the-threesome-sensation-also-the-gangbang-party, and you still seriously think and dreammm about settling down with someone in your future? C’mon guys, that will only happen in your another life. Not in this life. Really. Let me tell you why.
I don’t think you can be THAT happy, as happy as you imagine, when you settle down with someone. Why? Because you always enjoy being pleased by those different guys. You always get plenty of messages while you turn on your grindr. You always get bunch of likes when you post your pic on Instagram. You always taste that different cocks, different asses, lick different nipples, and now you have to leave all those things behind and settle down with only ONE cock, ONE ass, and ONE pair of nipples. Are you sure you can handle it ?
So really. If you dreammm to settle down with someone, I think having too much fun will not be the right direction. Once to twice in a week for sex is ok. Try to limit it if you can. If you can’t? TRY HARDER ! Unless settling down is not in your list, then you are much welcome to do whatever you want. Or be ready to keep being single for the rest of your life. Prett.
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Keris, team settling down. Which team are you ?